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Don’t Look and You Won’t Find

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Sometimes it feels like we’re in a black hole. All of our energy has been sucked off by demands and little irritants. Nothing is sparkling. We don’t see bright points on the horizon. Our universe seems dark and unfriendly — empty of stars and friendly faces.

I’ve noticed something about times like that.

Every time I give my soul room to breathe, everyone around me gets nicer. The people in it shine brighter like the stars they are.

So I’ve been working on ways to fill my universe with more stars.

The 6 Quickest Ways to Fill Your Universe with Stars

These are the 6 quickest ways I’ve tound to fill my universe with stars.

The quickest way to add joyful light is to bring conversation to someone who is alone. Making arrangments to see someone, who is shut-in, sick, or who cannot get to see the sunlight or a starry night, is added hassle in a busy schedule. Do it anyway. You’ll know it was the right choice when you see a lonely person’s entire face light up with the joy of your arrival. The light you cause will die out until long after you’ve gone and your conversation has been replayed over and over.

The quickest way to change folks’ dark behavior is to change my own. When someone is doing something that makes you crazy, change your response. A new response always gets attention. The person will stop to see what you’re doing. The original cycle will be broken. Act quickly. Say something — something nice can set a new star into the conversation.

The quickest way to change my behavior is to change my thinking. If you start to feel stressed or angry about a person who bugs you, it could be that you’re stuck on one tiny facet of that person’s being. Stand back and consider the whole person. Pull out your generosity. See some good things. Bits of starlight will begin shining into your thinking.

The quickest way to change my thinking is to change my mind. What the heck?! If the day is lousy, why not try to find a brighter one by reversing something? Just decide that one assumption youre made is totally bogus. Blow it out of the water and watch the fireworks make lovely stars as you give up your precious notions.

The quickest way is to shed a new light. Use your eyes to listen for what’s not being said. Watch what’s happening and how the person in question is or isn’t responding to things. Notice what is off in the responses the person is showing. That’s where you’ll find the potential to turn a dark how into a supernova.

The quickest way to fill a universe with stars in constellations so breathtaking is to make a smal child smile.. Find a child under the age of four and say these words, “Did you know that every time you smile your eyes twinkle?”

Our human universe was meant to have stars that shine in the daytime, to shine with the smiles of the people We only have to give them a reason to show you the way they twinkle brilliantly. We all know how to — people and stars are made of the same stuff.

I bet you could add ways to make more stars on Earth.

–ME “Liz” Strauss